Understanding Harvey and Bill and Larry and Charlie and Louis and Mario and Kevin and Mark and Anthony and Matt and …

So begins this article from the Huffington Post. After lecturing on atypical sexuality in ISW7532 this weekend, it seems a fitting article. While long, it is an interesting read on power, atypical desire, out of control sexuality, the heartbreak of some with a paraphilia, and the intersection of the MeToo movement. The subtitle says:

“Power alone does not explain their abuses.”

While long, it’s a good read. If you sort through it, come back and let us know what you think.

The doctor specialized in sex offenders, and many of his patients seemed incorrigible. There was the head of a school—a married man and father—who said the sight of pretty female students caused him to masturbate behind his desk. There was the factory worker who, despite many arrests, hid in the bushes in the park, springing out to display his genitals to passing women. A barber’s assistant who also liked to expose himself claimed that when desire came over him, he was “devoid of reason” and felt “like a bull trying to butt his head through a wall.” Others had sexual fetishes, acting out odd obsessions. One patient, aroused by a buttocks-enhancing fashion, would sneak up behind women and climax into their bustles.

 

 

Something else is going on here—something that Krafft-Ebing recognized when he wrote that “the psychopathology of sexual life necessarily deals with the miseries of man and the dark sides of his existence.” It is something besides the power, something we haven’t been as willing to discuss or dissect. Yet we must.

 

 

To leave the sex out of the conversation is to be blinkered about the sexual psychopathology that can upend people’s lives. Abuse of power is indeed intrinsic to the Me Too stories. But power alone does not explain why a man would choose to masturbate into a potted plant in front of a horrified woman rather than have sex with a willing one. Only when we examine the sexual aspect of these violations will we understand fully what is going on—and how to address it.

Read the full article here.

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