Images of Affair Recovery

Guiding Couples to Hope and Healing from the Trauma of Infidelity

March 29, 2019  •  Sugar Hill, GA

Infidelity can be a devastating trauma to an individual and a system. As with any trauma, the story quickly becomes overwhelming and unmanageable. The wounded spouse is often overwhelmed with the deception that is unfolding and the pain of the betrayal. The infidel may be overwhelmed with the exposure, grief of the loss, and concern that the wounded spouse may never heal. Stories, images, and narrative techniques can provide structure and form to the trauma and recovery path providing guidance and hope. Images include those that help illustrate the pain (Runners Crushed Ankle and Ripples), guide a view of the affair partner, illustrate healing roles of each spouse, structure rebuilding of trust (Trust Bucket and Options Grid), and guide how to sort through the story (The Rules). Workshop participants will explore infidelity (what the research says), an outline for treating it, and walk through images of recovery and when to effectively use them to help guide the healing process.




Learning Objectives:

By the end of this training participants will have gained or furthered their understanding of:

  1. Demographics of infidelity, including distinctives in gender, socio-economic level, race, and faith.
  2. Why infidelity  is classified as a trauma.
  3. The common infidelity recovery process.
  4. Several narrative images that can be explored in session designed to help couples work through the trauma of infidelity including:
    • Kintsugi
    • Crushed Ankle
    • Cancer vs Arterial cut
    • Impact (shock wave)
    • Purchase & Debt
    • Trust Bucket
    • Trust Grid
    • Penance
    • Toxic Beauty
  5. Common roles spouses accept in recovery from infidelity and how to guide couples toward healthier roles.
  6. The rules of recovery in infidelity and how to present them to couples.
  7. Complex infidelity cases and what makes them different.


Friday, March 29, 2019

8:00-8:45 – Registration

8:45-9:00 – Welcome and introductions

9:00-10:15 –

  • Infidelity by the numbers;
  • Indifelity as trauma;
  • Infidelity recovery process.

10:30-10:45 – Break

10:45-12:15 – Images of Recovery – Part 1

12:15 – 1:30 – Lunch

1:30 – 3:00 – Images of Recovery – Part II

3:00 – 3:15 – Break

3:15 – 4:15 – Roles and Rules

4:15-4:45 – Reaction and discussion

4:45 – 5:00 – Wrap up and evaluations

About your trainer

“As difficult and painful as this process is, I love watching couples go through the recovery process. Most of the couples who walk through the recovery process go on to have truly admirable marriages. They learn the skills, attitudes, and stances that help them have rich intimacy.”

~ Sytsma

Michael R. Sytsma


Dr. Sytsma has worked almost exclusively with couples in his counseling practice since founding Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. in 1998. Over 70% of his current case load includes affair recovery. As such, he has worked with hundreds of couples sorting through infidelity.

Michael has a PhD from the University of Georgia (COAMFT) where he focused on marital sexuality, a Masters in Community Counseling from Georgia State University (CACREP), a diploma in Christian Counseling from Psychological Studies Institute, and a BS in Christian Ministry from Indiana Wesleyan University where he also studied Substance Abuse Counseling. He is also an Ordained Minister in The Wesleyan Church and served as staff pastor for many years before founding Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. Michael is also a co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. where he developed the Institute for Sexual Wholeness program.

Dr. Sytsma loves to teach. He is a frequent presenter at professional conferences, couples retreats and workshops, and serves as professor in several graduate schools and seminaries including Richmont Graduate University, Asbury Theological Seminary, Reformed Theological Seminary, Dallas Theological Seminary, and Denver Seminary.

While trained in various models of counseling, Michael credits Minuchin and Bowen for the core of his theory while borrowing heavily from IFS, Narrative, and his early training in CBT and the medical model of substance abuse counseling. 

Dr. Sytsma’s full C.V. is available here.

Who is it for?

The target audience for this workshop is professional psychotherapists interested in helping couples and individuals heal from the trauma of infidelity. It is especially targeted to those who counsel from a Christian perspective, or counsel clients who hold to a Christian perspective on life.  (Please see discrimination policy below.)
Specifically, this workshop is for:

  • Professional Counselors (LPC/MHCC)
  • Marriage and Family Therapists (MFT)
  • Clinical Social Worksers
  • Psychologists
  • Pastoral Counselors
While this is the target audience, this workshop is open to anyone who works in a counseling setting including:

  • pastors,
  • lay counselors,
  • psychiatric nurses,
  • students/interns


Workshop Location:

Gwinnett Church
300 Peachtree Industrial Blvd., Sugar Hill, GA 30518

Gwinnett Church is excited to serve the community and professionals who care for others by hosting Images in Affair Recovery. The workshop will be held in the theatre of the new student building.

Cost  &  Continuing Education


(includes program, materials, snacks, CE certificates)

Early Registration (until 10/31/18) – $125.00

Normal Registration (11/1/18-3/14/19) – $150.00

Late Registration (3/15/19-3/29/19) – $175.00

 Full time student – $99.00.

*Policies, including cancelation/refund, are detailed below.

Continuing Education

Note the CE policy listed below.
Licensed Professional Counselors Association

This workshop has been approved by LPCA GA for 6.0 Core hours of continuing education for Professional Counselors. #7595-18.

Marriage and Family Therapy

This workshop has been approved by GAMFT for 6.0 Core hours of continuing education for Marriage and Family Therapists. #150-2018

National Board for Certified Counselors

Images of Affair Recovery has been approved by NBCC for NBCC credit. Building Intimate Marriages, Inc., is solely responsible for all aspects of the program. NBCC Approval No. SP-3219.

Want an Online Option?

We will be streaming this workshop live. Note that while the streamed version will include all the same content, it will NOT include a CE option. It will include all the content and ability to text in questions. The online version is LIVE and only available the weekend of the event.

To register for the streamed version, please click the link.



Please be familiar with these policies. You agree to them in registering for the workshop. Click on the tab to read through them. Let us know if you have questions/concerns.

Registration is fully transferrable without additional cost. To transfer registration the original individual who registered must email the host before the start of the workshop.

Registrations will be refunded based on the following:

  • Before 2/1/2018 full refund.
  • Between 2/1/2018 and 4/6/2018 full refund minus $25.00 processing fee.
  • After 3/15/2018 no refund.

No refunds will be provided for those who fail to attend or do not meet CE requirements.

Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. does not guarantee CE certificates will be accepted by any organization other than those specifically identified in the marketing materials. To receive a CE Certificate of attendance, participants must:

    • Sign in before the beginning of each session,
    • Be present until the end of each session, and
    • Submit an evaluation form of the program.

Record of attendance and evaluation forms will be maintained by Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. for at least 5 (five) years from the date of the workshop.

While this workshop:

– will be taught from a disctinctly Biblical Christian perspective and

– will be taught toward a target audience that is seeking to provide counseling both from that perspective, and largely to clients holding this perspective,

program participants who adhere to any religion, religious principles, creed, integration approach, or political principles, are welcome to attend. It is expected that workshop attendees will understand and respect the intended target audience and faith perspective of the presenters.

Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. does not discriminate against any individual or group with respect to any service, program, or activity on the basis of gender, race, creed, national origin, sexual orientation, religion, age, organizational membership, or any other basis prohibited by law.

Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. seeks to conduct training in a manner consistent with the requirements of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and similar state, federal, and local laws including making appropriate accommodations to program participants with legally-recognized disabilities, including physical, visual, and auditory disabilities. Please contact the host before the workshop should you anticipate needing any accommodation so we can make arrangements.
Consistent with NBCC requirements, participants are invited to submit any complaints about the program to the Board of Directors for Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. or it’s Director. Complaints may be submitted by postal mail or email. All complaints will be responded to within 3 business days. Consistent with NBCC policy, all complaints will also be reported to NBCC.
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